5 Simple Steps to Handling Your Emotions: Virtual Counselling Tip

5 Simple Steps to Handling Your Emotions when Faced with a Difficult Situation
Summary:
How many times have you lost control of yourself when you’re angry? Did you do or say something which you regretted afterwards? Read Below on Steps to make a change in this regard.
How many times have you lost control of yourself when you’re angry? Did you do or say something which you regretted afterwards?
I guess we all did. It’s normal, and after all, we are just human beings.
Every one of us faces problems, and sometimes those problems can come with emotions such as anger and frustration. But what if you could gain control of your anger, instead of letting it control you.
It’s not easy to gain control of your anger, especially when you are provoked into such situations. Nevertheless, if you are facing with this situation next time, you can try out my 5 simple steps.
Identify what makes you upset:
Start with identifying what upsets your feelings or emotions. Are you feeling these emotions in your body? Pull yourself aside from everything you are doing or the anger situation you are in, then take a deep breathe and clear your mind. Shake out your body. Dance, move, shake. Think, what brought you into this situation and what the best ultimate solution would be for what you are looking to accomplish.
You need to know what is wrong in order to correct it and perhaps more importantly, what outcome you are ultimately looking for….Right?
Use them as a stop signal:
When you are done with Step 1, you’d probably already knew what made you angry. You might not have the complete clear idea of it, but it’s OK. At least you have “some” idea.
Use these as stop signs for your anger. Are you upset because the little voice inside your head is telling you to be upset? 
Know that you have the power to stop the little voice from talking within yourself. Also know that you are able to think independently and not being influenced by the voice or the situation.
Tell yourself positive things:
It’s important to think positive. You can counteract your upsetting thoughts with framing your mind to have a positive self-message. Tell yourself something nice that will make you feel better.
For instance, “this anger feeling is only temporary and I don’t want to say or do something which I will regret later.”
Tell yourself to slow down and take it easy:
Make your body and your mind clear.
Clarify the situation for yourself. Ask yourself, “What is really going on in this situation?” “Am I being triggered?”
You still feel disappointed, angered, or upset, but realize that the feelings are not rooted in truth, but rather, in old programing. 
Think of constructive goals and outcomes:
Try to set more solution focused goals for yourself in regard to the problem situation that you are in. 
Ask yourself, “What are the alternative solutions that I use to resolve this situation?”
Be specific as possible, and concrete. 
“What can you do to change this situation?”
List out the constructive options that you have in mind in which to reach your goals. 
Ask yourself, “What constructive actions can I take to reach my goals?”
Finally, choose a constructive option to reach your goal and act fast on it.
The 5 simple steps shared here can really help you when whenever you are faced with difficult situations. You can try them out when you face with such situations.
There’s no doubt life shows us some difficult situations which cause difficult emotions, but I truly believe we are not our thoughts and feelings. We simple HAVE them, and we can learn the tools that we can use to release them.

  
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Ryan Joseph Kopyar
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